The Anxiety and Movies

During my twenties, I loved thriller movies. The more exciting they were, the better. Tom Cruise all the way! It would give me a couple of hours of escapism, a rest from the everyday, and a sense of participating in life’s most exciting events.

Then my ‘dark years’ began, and my world was stalled by anxiety and depression. Unable to care for myself, others, or sometimes even to get out of bed. Unexplained pains led me to the Emergency Room, and life felt like it was a painful waste.

This went on for half a decade, and needless to say that all the while, I was disinterested in watching exciting movies. Nervous excitement, tension and adrenaline rushes were my everyday and I had no need of additional ‘pumping up’ in search of entertainment.

Physical effects

My pulse would race, my heart ache, my head spin, and the excitement in the movie soon made me feel claustrophobic, so that I had to be out of the room. It can be so hard to explain that anxiety brings real, physical effects, but they go undetected and disbelieved because doctors can’t distinguish the changes in chemicals that we carry naturally. This leads to the frequent assumption of their being no obvious ’cause’.

It’s not only us mortals that suffer from anxiety attacks though. We may be sitting there watching a movie star who themselves has experienced the stress of an anxiety disorder.

Friend-of-the celebrities Joe Beleznay is among the many celebrities who ave spoken out about their anxiety and its physical effects. He told Rolling Stone: “It was heart palpitations, shortness of breath, coldness and shivers, strange stuff, and we’d be like, ‘You’re totally fine. You’re not having a heart attack.'”


Mental health charity Mind backs up these observations on its website, which lists the physical sensations of anxiety:

  • nausea (feeling sick)
  • tense muscles and headaches
  • pins and needles
  • feeling light headed or dizzy
  • faster breathing
  • sweating or hot flushes
  • a fast, thumping or irregular heart beat
  • raised blood pressure
  • difficulty sleeping
  • needing the toilet more frequently, or less frequently
  • churning in the pit of your stomach
  • experiencing panic attacks

The list is long and fairly general, and rather than focusing on the nature of your symptoms, it is better to consider how much they affect your life: a severe anxiety disorder will be having a severe impact on your day-to-day living, and the enjoyment of simple pleasures such as an occasional movie are included in this.

While my own symptoms eased in time and with understanding, treatment and support from others; I still have a lower tolerance for excitement. So there’s no Tom Cruise in my life any more!

If you’re suffering from debilitating anxiety, please know that you are not alone.

At we provide a place for the sharing of feelings and experiences by those who live with anxiety on a daily basis.

With our psychologist blogger, webhost Jemma who has her own lived experience, and the words and support of others who know just how you feel, together we can find a way to cope, to adapt, and to renew our hope for a life lived with pleasure and contentment.

Mental Illness By Children

Children are the most beautiful creations of God. To raise a well-rounded child, many parents go the extra mile to establish a strong support system so that he or she feels competent and confident. But no one can imagine the plight of the parents whose children are diagnosed with a mental illness. Parenting a child with mental illness can be quite challenging. In such a scenario, the best thing to do is to accept the problem and seek professional help at the earliest.

Sadly, mental disorders, be it in children or adults, lack societal acceptance, with most of the people struggling with a mental disease feeling terrified to come out in public. This kind of disparity is strongly driven by the lack of knowledge and awareness about mental disorders, which not only strengthens the myths surrounding mental illnesses, but also isolates and marginalizes the patients.

Very few mentally ill children receive proper treatment

For children with mental disorders, the best approach is to track the potential triggers and symptoms early on and consult a physician to make a diagnosis and initiate the treatment. Sadly, only few children receive proper treatment for their mental ailment due to the parents’ inability to accept the reality, apart from the social stigmas attached to it. These disorders should not be taken lightly as some can even pass on to adulthood, making life much more difficult.

Listed below are some tips that can help parents openly accept the problem of mental illness in children and seek relevant treatment:

  1. Accepting the truth: It is the parents’ responsibility to ensure a child’s proper mental development and take an immediate action on noticing even a slight deviation from the normal behavior. It is important for parents to accept the reality if the diagnosis confirms the problem. It will ensure that the required treatment is provided at the right time.
  2. Acquiring sufficient information regarding mental disorders: People in general lack knowledge and awareness about mental health and various illnesses, which makes it difficult to notice the symptoms in the first place. Hence, educating oneself about various mental disorders can go a long way in identifying the problem before it goes out of control.
  3. Getting rid of prejudices against mental diseases: When a child goes through the debilitating symptoms of a mental disorder, it is important for the parents to share his or her pain and agony wholeheartedly. Being judgmental about the children’s behavior should be strictly avoided. The focus should be on the triggers that prompted the child to behave in a particular way.
  4. Not getting perturbed by the social norms: Parents should not allow social prejudices and negative mindsets come in their way when dealing with mental disorders. One should not waste time thinking about the pros and cons of revealing his or her child’s mental health issue to the society and seek support from the near and dear ones to search for the best doctor and treatment center that can lead to child’s recovery.
  5. Empowering children battling mental ailment: Being positive and teaching children to be confident and optimistic toward life can be the best way to tackle the situation. It is important to be transparent with children and keep them updated about the side effects of using drugs and alcohol for self-medication.

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The Reason Gardening Is Good For Your Health

Spring is in the air. And when spring is on the horizon, many of us are aching to get out and plant a garden. In the interim, there are a lot of garden shows and seeds that we can buy to plan our ultimate garden outside. Spring is such a hopeful time of year.

But did you know that gardening had a lot of health benefits too. When we are out in nature to garden, we get to commune with nature and we get to feel so much better about ourselves and about life in general. Many times, our problems just melt away, and we release a lot of feel good endorphins.

But there are more benefits than this even. In this article I will outline some of these benefits of gardening in more detail so that you can also get urge to start planning your garden earlier this year than ever.

So, without further ado, here are the known benefits of gardening.

• When you plant your seeds in the ground and watch them grow, you have a sense of achievement and accomplishment. This can help you to feel better and more motivated.

• You will weed out negative thoughts. As you are weeding your garden, you can think of your negative thoughts just like weeds that you can get rid of. And as you pull out your weeds, imagine weeding your negative thoughts one at a time. This will help you feel better overall and less depressed.

• You will be getting some much needed vitamin D from the sun. During the dark winter months, we lack a lot of vitamin D. During the summer, we get to replenish our supplies of this important vitamin for our overall health and well-being.

• Getting out in nature can also give you a healthy distraction. For instance, if you are nibble on food in the afternoon perhaps you should get out into nature instead of grabbing that chocolate bar at 3 pm. Not only will you feel better because you controlled your appetites but you may even lose weight. You will also not feel as guilty about snacking all the time.

• You can grow fresh produce. This will help you to be healthier in that you will be eating foods that you should more often and eat food you shouldn’t eat less often.

• You will get some exercise. So, instead of being sedentary most of the day, even ten or fifteen minutes of exercise a day can really help you feel better.

By growing a garden, we can experience a lot of psychological and physical benefits. So, embrace spring, and take the time to grow a garden. You will be very glad that you did as spring turns into summer.